I know there is a quote going around about “date a girl who reads” and it’s being credited to Rob Pattinson. I’d like to make a correction. This quote is a part of an essay written by Rosemarie Urquico. Perhaps Rob Pattinson quoted her at some point, but that is not his original quote. Here is her essay:
DATE A GIRL WHO READS
by Rosemarie Urquico
(In response to Charles Warnke’s You Should Date an Illiterate Girl)
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.
“All of time and space, everything that ever happened or that ever will, where do you want to start?”
Series One ~
1x02 The End of the World
1x03 The Unquiet Dead
1x04 Aliens of London (1 of 2)
1x05 World War Three (2 of 2)
1x07 The Long Game
1x08 Father’s Day
1x09 The Empty Child (1 of 2)
1x10 The Doctor Dances (2 of 2)
1x11 Boom Town
1x12 Bad Wolf (1 of 2)
1x13 The Parting of the Ways (2 of 2)
Series Two ~
2x00 The Christmas Invasion
2x01 New Earth
2x02 Tooth and Claw
2x03 School Reunion
2x04 The Girl in the Fireplace
2x05 Rise of the Cybermen (1 of 2)
2x06 The Age of Steel (2 of 2)
2x07 The Idiot’s Lantern
2x08 The Impossible Planet (1 of 2)
2x09 The Satan Pit (2 of 2)
2x10 Love & Monsters
2x11 Fear Her
2x12 Army of Ghosts (1 of 2)
2x13 Doomsday (2 of 2)
Series Three ~
3x01 The Runaway Bride
3x02 The Shakespeare Code
3x04 Daleks in Manhattan (1 of 2)
3x05 Evolution of the Daleks (2 of 2)
3x06 The Lazarus Experiment
3x08 Human Nature (1 of 2)
3x09 The Family of Blood (2 of 2)
3x12 The Sound of Drums (1 of 2)
3x13 Last of the Time Lords (2 of 2)
Series Four ~
4x00 Voyage of the Damned
4x01 Partners in Crime
4x02 The Fires of Pompeii
4x03 Planet of the Ood
4x04 The Sontaran Stratagem (1 of 2)
4x05 The Poison Sky (2 of 2)
4x06 The Doctor’s Daughter
4x07 The Unicorn and the Wasp
4x08 Silence in the Library (1 of 2)
4x09 Forest of the Dead (2 of 2)
4x11 Turn Left
4x12 The Stolen Earth
4x13 Journey’s End
4x14 The Next Doctor (Christmas Special 2008)
4x15 Planet of the Dead
4x16 Waters of Mars
4x17 The End of Time, Part One (Christmas Special 2009)
4x18 The End of Time, Part Two
Series Five ~
5x01 The Eleventh Hour
5x02 The Beast Below
5x03 Victory of the Daleks
5x04 The Time of Angels
5x05 Flesh and Stone
5x06 Vampires of Venice
5x07 Amy’s Choice
5x08 The Hungry Earth
5x09 Cold Blood
5x10 Vincent and the Doctor
5x11 The Lodger
5x12 The Pandorica Opens
5x13 The Big Bang
Series Six ~
6x00 A Christmas Carol (Christmas Special 2010)
6x01 The Impossible Astronaut (1 of 2)
6x02 Day Of The Moon (2 of 2)
6x03 The Curse Of The Black Spot
6x04 The Doctor’s Wife
6x05 The Rebel Flesh (1 of 2)
6x06 The Almost People (2 of 2)
6x07 A Good Man Goes To War
6x08 Let’s Kill Hitler
6x09 Night Terrors
6x10 The Girl Who Waited
6x11 The God Complex
6x12 Closing Time
6x13 The Wedding Of River Song